my brain runneth over

The collected (recent) thoughts of one Katherine Surgeon:

1. Are you familiar with the phrase "Angel's Share"? I know it's a bar in NYC, but a friend explained it to me as a drinking tradition whereby you set aside a small amount for the angels to drink. (Kind of like Elijah's plate at Passover.) On further exploration, I discovered that traditionally, the Angel's share is the amount of alcohol that evaporates in the oak barrel aging process. So it's kind of like the angels get in there and drink their bit before you can even pour it out for them.

Sneaky little angels.

2. If you're going to hang a sign from your rearview mirror that says "I heart My Penis" are you really going to drive a Subaru Forrester? I think you might want to rethink that one, neighbor.

3. The new, Eleventh Commandment: Thou shalt not bathe in cologne and then ride the MTA, especially when thou art covered in a prime vintage eau de diarrhea. (Have you no nosehairs, man?)

4. I found out that if your clementine has seeds (as I have made rules that it shouldn't) that means the bees have been at work cross pollenating your clementine with someting else. Which is to say, your clementine is all sexed out!

(stupid lucky fruit.)

5. I was recently at a meeting in the brand new New York Times building (the one the guy climbed up the outside of) and it's a gorgeous building. Lots of stunning views, enormous windows and ample sunshine. The toilets, however, scared the shit out of me. They are those automatic flush toilets, which we have in the Chrysler building, and which I've gotten used to over time. However, the NYT toilets do something ours don't: they sound like an angry cat lives under the seat and barkingly meows at you before it flushes. Like a catty toilet troll.

Which is just creepy.

6. My friend, Robbie Gil, has some amazing new songs you can download for free on his MySpace page. I totally recommend doing so. They're really great.

7. A while ago, I was seeing a guy who was very supportive of me and all the craziness I have to go through while trying to change my life. He wanted to be there for me and take care of me, which was very generous and lovely of him. He put it this way (paraphrased, of course):

Him: Did you know that they often stable racehorses with cats?
Me: No. Why?
Him: Because the cats keep the horses calm. They get rid of all the mice and rats and things that would otherwise spook the horse. I want to be the cat to your racehorse.

(Beautiful, no? We split up, though, because I felt like the relationship was unbalanced.)

What, I asked, did the racehorse do for the cat?

some valid questions

1. If I gave it something to burrow into, do you think that an arctic mouse could live in my freezer?

2. Can you expect to be disappointed?

3. Ok, this isn't a question, but... with help from my friend, I came up with a name for the stomach bug that seems to have hit everyone I know: the sqashed cannoli flu. Because bascially, when you get it, you're a squashed cannoli.

4. What do you get if you mix pear cobbler (in your hair), red velvet cake (on your body), and hot cocoa (on your face)?

[Hint: Me, after my shower this morning!]

5. If I don't feel like dating anymore, do I have to?

the date that shouldn't have been

It's been almost six months since I met somebody online. And after my date Friday night, I wish I were still headed for seven.

CAVEAT: I hesitate to write about this date because, well, there were a number of signs that came barreling down the tracks at me like a freight train full of shit, and, being out of practice, I willfully neglected to see them. For my part in the ensuing tragedy, I sincerely apologize, and hope that your opinions of me are not (too terribly) diminished.

Sign number one: my date, who we'll call Frank, admitted to playing Dungeons and Dragons over email with his friends. (He's 35, not 14.)

Sign number two: Frank has a Yoda collection. A very LARGE Yoda collection.

Sign number three: Frank has videos on youtube where he's dancing with a light saber.

On my first date with Frank, he started out very overwhelming -- loud, garrulous, inconfident; I could tell that I was making him nervous. By the end of our date, though, he calmed down and really talked from the heart about something, and it seemed like there was someone on the inside who was worth meeting. So I took a second date with him. (And, for the record, he was cute. Tall, nice eyes, slim build, I can't argue.)

Our second date started off well. He was calmer, more reassured, and quoting fewer movies. We ate dinner, and he told me about the sci-fi books he was reading, the Twilight Zone marathon he watched on New Year's Eve and the distinctions between different ways of playing D&D. (Didn't know there were any, did you? Well, there are. LOTS.)

My dinner, however, didn't sit terribly well with me, and after we were finished, I turned down his (now second) offer to go back to his place to get high and play videogames, and instead we walked around the block. When I realized that the only way I was apt to feel better was by getting horizontal (alone, thank you very much), he offered to walk me home. Twelve blocks later, we were both freezing and it would have been inhumane to send him back in the other direction without at least letting him thaw out a bit.

"I'm letting you come into my apartment to warm up, but I have to warn you, it's not clean, and it's not that kind of invitation," I said, as we headed up the stairs. "I wasn't expecting company tonight."

I gave him a brief tour. (My house is so small, any tour is brief.) He plopped down on the couch.

"It's kind of gritty on the couch."

"I know," I said, "I was eating popcorn there last night and it had sugar on it, so that's probably sugar on the couch."

"And this is a pretty picture," he said, leaning towards a shot of me in my graduation gown. "But it's kinda dusty."

"I told you, my house isn't clean. You're not really here."

I sat down on the couch and he rubbed my back. Yes, yes, I'm a whoooore... I let him. Then there was a little bit of smooching. When he tried to cop a feel, I deftly maneuvered his hand out of the way with my forearm.

"Did you notice that?" he asked.

"Um, what?"

"That I felt your boob."

"Yeah, I noticed that. Did you notice that I pushed your hand away?"

"Yeah, but it's only fair. Second date; second base."

Seriously?

Do guys actually think this kind of thing? And, of the percentage who think it (over age 14) how many of them say it out loud?

He got up to go home, and I followed him to the door. Watch out, Kate! Sneak Attack!

Now, you should know that there are women in the world who, if you pull the right maneuver, something in their neural pathways snaps and they're no longer able to think above the waist. I am, sadly, one of those women. Of the myriad things that will do this, one of them is backing me up against a wall. So when that happened, all bets were off.

After a shocking (and, I'll admit, surprisingly good make out session), Frank said, "You know, dinner, and getting to know you, and walking around and talking to you have all been really good, but the last five minutes, where I had kind of a hard on and was rubbing up against you? Those were the best five minutes yet! Just say the word and I'll take my profile down."

"Oh, and did you see my Star Trek belt buckle?"

Dear god, whatever the word is, please please PLEASE don't let it slip from my lips. My mind was racing. End this. Save yourself. No matter how good the smooching, there is no way you can continue to see this guy. Ever!

As bad as it was, he somehow managed to continue to sink even lower. "You know, it's sad that I have to go home alone, but the good thing is, those last five minutes? At least they've given me something to jerk off to."

"NO." I said firmly, now thoroughly disgusted with myself for getting anywhere near a wall with my back. "That will not be your parting thought. Try again."

He laughed. "When we're married and have grandkids, we'll look back on this and smile."

"Really? You jump from jerking off to marriage in one step? That's impossible!"

He left, I locked my door behind him, and made myself a solemn vow.

I would never, ever, ignore a freight train full of shit steaming down the tracks at me at a million miles an hour.

In fact, I'm seriously considering giving up dating (if not living) all together.

how pine needles are like sand in your bathing suit

Several frightening ways pine needles shed by a christmas tree are like sand in your bathing suit:

1. In the moment, neither are annoying. However, after stripping off your suit or chucking your tree, you're shocked to see just how much has accumulated.

2. Neither ever really leaves. You can rinse your suit for days or vacuum your apartment seventeen times, and yet a trace of both still linger.

3. Both are very useful and necessary -- but NOT in their current location. Pine needles are great firestarters, and sand is great for sandcastle building, but I want no fires in my apartment or castles in my vagina.

4. Both have an individual smell. (That's all I'm going to say about that.)

5. And no matter how I get rid of my tree, whether throwing it out the window, carrying it down the stairs in pieces or wrapping it up in a sheet and lugging it down to the street, I always end up with three or four errant pine needles... in my fannypants.

These are always less fun than sand.

bad postal karma

I'm not big on new year's resolutions. I like the feeling of turning over a new leaf at the beginning of the year, and the low-level psychic support of thousands (if not millions) of others also trying to better themselves helps to do that, but January first feels so arbitrary. Why should this Thursday be any different from last Thursday? I try to remember that each new day is another opportunity to make a new plan and to change things about my life that make me unhappy.

Like my relationship with the postal service...

I've been having some bad postal karma lately. A birthday present arrived for me after I had left town for the holidays, and UPS declared that the driver "MET CUST MAN." When I called UPS, they told me that meant the driver had "met the customer's man." I, being the customer, wanted to know who that man was, as I have yet to meet him myself. (A new dating service! Let UPS pick your date!) I told the customer service agent that there were a number of men who lived in the building, but none of them lived with me. Yet. (She didn't find that as amusing as I did.)

Long story short, I sorted things out with the company this morning, and would HIGHLY recommend Philosophy if you're interested in ordering bath and body products. Their customer service was OUTSTANDING. Needless to say, I had the new package shipped to my office, to avoid the black hole vortex that my lobby has apparently become.

Similarly, I ordered presents for a friend of mine from Amazon and the mailman delivered a "We Seemed To Have Missed You" slip to her mailbox when she wasn't home to receive it. She signed the slip to indicate they could leave the package for her, and then either put it in the mail or returned it to her mailbox. (I'm not sure which.) Regardless, the package is now sitting at her local post office and since she's no longer in possession of the slip (but does have the tracking number) she can't get the package.

This is my imagined version of the exchange at the post office:

Friend: Hi, I'm here to pick up my package.

Postal Worker: Your slip.

F: I don't have it. But I have the tracking number.

PW: I don't need the tracking number, I need the slip.

F: But I don't have it. I have ID with my address on it, and the tracking number. Wouldn't those indicate I am who I say I am?

PW: Without the slip there's nothing I can do.

F: But I mailed the slip back to you. (Or put it in my mailbox -- whichever she did.)

PW: Without the slip there's nothing I can do.

F: So the package, which is sitting right there where I can see it, which is addressed to me, at the address that is right here on my state-issued ID, which, in most states, counts as proof that I am who I say I am, will be sent back to the shipper because I lost a lousy piece of paper?

PW: Without the slip there's nothing I can do. (read: "It's beyond my control.")

F: I'M GOING TO KILL EVERYONE IN HERE AND THEN SHIMMY THROUGH THE FOUR INCH WINDOW SO I CAN GET TO MY PACKAGE, BITCHES!

PW: That'll be fine, as long as you give me the slip first.

I have no idea how that's going to work out.

And then, as a kicker, I'm having this problem with my Time Out New York subscription. I've subscribed to this magazine for a hundred years and have never had a problem. Then, in September, my subscription runs out. So I try to renew it. But nothing happens. So my subscription runs out, and in November, I renew it for three years. My credit card is charged, and I settle down, waiting for the Thanksgiving issue.

Nothing.

So I call them the first week of December and say "hey, where's my magazine?" and they say "what magazine?" and I say, "um, yours?" and they say "yeah, you're not a subscriber" and I say "yeah, I am" and they say "um, ok, please hold." Then they sort it out, and the 12/11 issue should be on its way to me.

December 30th comes and I call them again because I still haven't received an issue. I say "hey, where's my magazine?" and they say "what magazine?" and I say, "um, yours?" and they say "yeah, it's at your house" and I say "um, no, it's not. I'm at my house, magazineless" and they say "well, it should be there, call the post office" and I say "ok, I'll call the post office, but why do I have this notice threatening to send me to collections when I've already paid for a three year subscription?"

(pause)

"ok, NOW you should get a magazine, and your subscription ends in September of 2009" and I say "yeah, except that I paid for a three year subscription" and they say, "ok, yeah, you're right" and blah blah blah blah blah. Six years later, they tell me that I'm all set, that I'll get the January 11th issue and that my subscription will be four issues short. I say, "So basically, since you guys claim to be sending me four weeks of a magazine that I haven't gotten, I have to suck it up and get four fewer issues in my subscription." Their response, "Um, yeah."

Note to TONY: if I don't get the January 11th issue, I'm calling my credit card company and stopping payment on that charge. (Take that!)

I hope everyone is having a lovely new year, and if you need help sticking to any non-postal related resolutions, feel free to contact me. I can be a great motivator if you need one!

a family trip

Once upon a time, Grandma and Grandpa Surgeon had two children, Dick and Janet.*

After finishing school near Chicago, Dick Surgeon left the midwest and settled in New York, where he met his wife, Lois, and they had two beautiful, brilliant, sweet, and phenomenal girls, Priscilla and Kate.**

Janet settled down outside of Chicago and met Dick Practitioner, and they had two children who were wonderful in their own rights, but nowhere near as awesome as Priscilla and Kate.***

Right after Kate was born, Grandpa Surgeon died. It was sad, but Kate was too small to know anything about it.

When Grandpa Al Surgeon died, Grandma Surgeon (whose name was Marian, but who (for some inexplicable reason) decided that "Mar-Mar" was a better name for the grandkids to call her) drove around with the ashes of Grandpa Al in a box in the trunk. Everyone thought this was a little odd, but when Mar-Mar said that she liked having him around, everyone agreed it was easier not to argue with Mar-Mar and let it drop.

Many years later, Mar-Mar also died. This was sad, too, but Kate was big enough to know things about it.

As a result, Dick and the East Coast Surgeons inherited the enormous powder blue boat that she had been driving in her last (incontinent) years. (Yum!) While the Surgeons were happy to have what amounted to a brand new car to replace the Shithole they had previously owned, the Oldsmobile was a lateral step (if not a backwards one), and definitely did not improve their good looks. (As if anything really could...)

When the car arrived on the East Coast, Dick put the ashes of his mother in the trunk with his father. Everyone thought this was a little odd, but when Dick said he didn't know what else to do with them, everyone agreed it was easier not to argue with Dick and let it drop. (Anyway, he was going to be the ONLY family member who would be driving that ass-ugly car, so who were the rest of them to argue, really? And the other choice was putting his parents in the garage, which seemed kind of hostile, so Grandpa Al and Mar-Mar moved into the trunk of the Olds.)

Waaaaaay too many years passed, and the Oldsmobile finally died. This was NOT sad.

However, Grandpa Al (whose box, incidentally read, "Melvin Surgeon," not "Alvin Surgeon") and Mar-Mar were once again without a home. So Dick transfered them into the trunk of his new (inexplicably powder blue) car.

Many more years passed, and Janet came to visit the East Coast Surgeons for Christmas. Dick picked her up in his powdery car, with their folks in the trunk. When she got to the house, Janet sat down, asked for a drink and said how nice it was "to take a nice ride with my whole family again." And that kicked off Christmas.

The End.

*This is actually true. It wasn't until I wrote it just now, however, that I realized how close they are to Dick and Jane.

** This is also true. Really!

*** This may be editorialized a bit.

Author's Note:
We tried to get Dick and Janet to make a plan for the relocation of their parents, but I feel compelled to point out that Al's been in the trunk for 32 years, and Mar-Mar for 10, so expecting forward movement on this is kind of like waiting for pigs to fly. (They might. You never know.)

In related news, I once managed to really freak out a boyfriend by asking him if he wanted to meet my grandparents and then opening the trunk of the car and introducing them to each other. Good times!

birthday thyme

I mentioned the aftermath of my birthday, but not the party itself. Which, in my opinion, was another raging success (ifIdosaysomyself).

Here, in no particular order, except for the order my computer has arbitrarily put them in, are a few of my favorite shots from that night:

Me and my dear friends Dan and Rhonda. I don't get to see them enough.

My book group ladies (and Bill). From left to right, Alli, me, Jen, Lauren & Larissa. I don't get to see them enough, either.

My good friend (and often sole comment-leaver), Jon. Looking dapper, I may add, thanks to an office holiday party. (Not that my birthday isn't an appropriate reason to dress up, mind you.)

You know those nature documentaries where the narrator gets really, really quiet when you're about to witness something completely fantastic and almost unbelievable? Well, read this paragraph that way because this is a photo of LISA OUT OF THE HOUSE AFTER DARK! Rarer than snow in Vegas, I was blessed with Lisa's presence at my birthday party for the first time ever, I think. (Or at least since she had kids.) A total honor.

Avery, another of my rocks of gibraltar. Without her, I'd be... well, I'd be me two years ago. (And nobody wants to go back there, do they??)

It seems kind of unfair to me that Jesus has to share his stocking with Jaime. I mean, come on, it's his BIRTHDAY...

And then there were the photo series.

Like the one I did with Rob where the photographer said, "Ok, Rob, you look drunk, and Kate, you look sober."

(not so good on my part)

And then we switched it:

(very convincing, no?)

And then, somehow Kiara and I got caught up in a photographic maelstrom. We started with cute, huggy pictures, and then devolved from there...

Were we trying to be sexy? I doubt it. Maybe. I just couldn't stop laughing.

And then, one for Where's Waldo champions around the world:

The Stripey Twins!

It was an excellent party, I got fantastic gifts, was given drinks all night and Avery brought cupcakes. I'd do it again any night of the week.

My only regret is that a girl can only turn 29 so many times...

(For shots from last year, go here)